As a woman or color, I honestly feel the “Olivia Pope Pressure” in which I have to be twice as good as everyone else; my excellence isn’t celebrated, rather expected 🙇🏽♀️ If I don’t assimilate fast enough, I will be pushed out. In addition, it feels somehow easier to treat me like an assistant or secretary. While my co-worker might not care about doing menial or grunt work, I can only put up with so much for so long. I need to feel like I’m growing or excelling in my career and like there are opportunities for my growth. I know “black don’t crack” but I prefer not to be considered based on my appearance or age. I’ve been at my current job for 5 years now and I was passed over twice. I’ve had enough 😤Read More
How long should you stay at your job? How long do you stay loyal? That opinion seems to shift through generations, industries, genders and location. As we hit milestones in our lives, it inevitable to start think “what’s next” before it actually gets here. But how do you know if the grass is greener on the other side? What are you really looking for? The money? The title? It’s funny how these can play into your professional and romantic life. What next? How do I know? I feel like I’m being forced to determine the rest of my life right now.Read More
I got so stressed out at work I started reading The 48 Laws of Power. For the 4th time in my career, I feel like I’ve been looked over and not recognized. As I continue taking steps up the corporate ladder, I only hope the politics don’t pull me down. “Who you know here matters more than what you know,” is something the Director of HR told us in a leadership seminar. How can I stay motivated, while feeling like my merit will never be rewarded?Read More
Written by ELLA
I kicked out my [ex] boyfriend and picked up a second job. I'm proud of my devotion to my work but can't shake feeling like an absolute fool... But love is what love is.
What kind of man would try to insult you & say "you can't keep a man," to avoid discussing the fact that he lied about having 5 children (one of which isn't his, one of which he found out isn't his)? A man who is worthless as his word. The kind of man I would rather kill than keep. I can control my actions, but I can't deny saying that his daughters would grow up to be whores like their mother... But when you find text message conversations of a man being excited that his "wife is getting slutted out" you have second thoughts about relationships and the things a person is allowed to expect from you.Read More